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Wording Options for Wedding Invitations

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Now that we've chatted about the recipe for a wedding invitation suite, I thought it would be fun to talk about the various wording options for your wedding invitations! There are so many different ways you can word your invitations and response cards, but I wanted to share my favorite choices for formal wording in a church, formal wording in a non-church venue, and some fun casual wording options, too!

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INVITATION WORDING OPTIONS

 

FORMAL | IN A CHURCH

MR. AND MRS. CHARLES CLINCH
REQUEST THE HONOUR OF YOUR PRESENCE
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER

JESSICA MARIE
TO
ZACKARY PEDDICORD

SATURDAY, THE FOURTEENTH OF MAY
TWO THOUSAND SIXTEEN
AT SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING

HOLY GHOST CHURCH
KNOXVILLE, TENNESSEE

AND AFTERWARD A RECEPTION
AT GETTYSVUE COUNTRY CLUB
 

SEMI-FORMAL | BOTH FAMILIES INVOLVED

MR. AND MRS. CHARLES CLINCH
AND MR. AND MRS. STEVE PEDDICORD
INVITE YOU TO SHARE IN THEIR JOY
AT THE WEDDING CELEBRATION OF THEIR CHILDREN

JESSICA MARIE
TO
ZACKARY PEDDICORD

SATURDAY, THE FOURTEENTH OF MAY
TWO THOUSAND SIXTEEN
AT SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING

GETTYSVUE COUNTRY CLUB
KNOXVILLE, TENNESSEE

FORMAL | NON-CHURCH VENUE

MR. AND MRS. CHARLES CLINCH
REQUEST THE PLEASURE OF YOUR COMPANY
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER

JESSICA MARIE
TO
ZACKARY PEDDICORD

SATURDAY, THE FOURTEENTH OF MAY
TWO THOUSAND SIXTEEN
AT SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING

GETTYSVUE COUNTRY CLUB
KNOXVILLE, TENNESSEE
 


 

CASUAL

TOGETHER WITH THEIR FAMILIES

JESSICA AND ZACKARY

INVITE YOU TO SHARE IN THEIR JOY
AT THE CELEBRATION OF THEIR WEDDING

SATURDAY, THE FOURTEENTH OF MAY
TWO THOUSAND SIXTEEN
AT SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING

GETTYSVUE COUNTRY CLUB
KNOXVILLE, TENNESSEE

 

 

RESPONSE CARD WORDING OPTIONS

 

FORMAL | IN A CHURCH

THE FAVOUR OF A REPLY IS REQUESTED
BY APRIL 14, 2017

M ___________________________________
please list the names of all attending

___ ACCEPTS WITH PLEASURE
___ DECLINES WITH REGRET

 

CASUAL VERSION 1

M ___________________________________
please list the names of all attending

___ CAN'T WAIT TO SEE Y'ALL!
___ WISH I COULD MAKE IT, SENDING LOVE!

PLEASE RESPOND BY APRIL 14

FORMAL | NON-CHURCH VENUE

PLEASE RESPOND BY
THE FOURTEENTH OF APRIL

M ___________________________________
please list the names of all attending

___ ACCEPTS WITH PLEASURE
___ DECLINES WITH REGRET

 

CASUAL VERSION 2

M ___________________________________
please list the names of all attending

___ EXCITED TO DINE, DANCE & CELEBRATE!
___ WILL BE CELEBRATING FROM AFAR!

PLEASE RESPOND BY APRIL 14

Blush silk ribbon and gold scissors | Photo by SC Stockshop

photo by the sc stockshop

Those are four of my favorite wording options to suggest to my sweet SJM Brides! However, they are just a starting point. While I love respecting etiquette, I am of the mindset that we should be able to tweak your wording to fit your personalities as well as the preferences of your families! 

Have a doctor or doctors for parents (like I do!)? Make sure to note that in your formal invitation wording! Hosting a brunch wedding? Feel free to make your wording even more casual or playful to reflect that!

One of my faaaavorite things to recommend for brides who want to respect the wishes of their mamas but still have fun with their wording is to select one of the formal invitation wording options and pair it with a casual response card wording option! Some might call that an etiquette snafoo - but I think it is the perfect way to please all parties involved! Your invitation will always be a tad more formal, as it is the piece formally inviting your loved ones to your wedding. However, your response cards are tiny in size and will be returned to y'all - so I say why not have fun with those small cuties and pack them with as much personality as possible?

Vintage Postage Stamps | Photo by SC Stockshop

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There are a couple of other little details I want to make sure to point out about the wording options! 

You might think you spot a couple of typos in the formal in a church wording options - but they are actually correct! Traditionally, weddings held in churches use "honour" and "favour" rather than the modern "honor" and "favor" spellings. It is simply a nod to old English history!

Also, the reasoning why the bride's middle name is used rather than her last is because her maiden name is listed in the inviting line with "Mr. and Mrs. Charles Clinch" - so it is proper etiquette to use her middle name instead of repeating her last! But, that's 100% up to you!

I also always recommend that my couples include a line that reads "please list the names of all attending" below the line where their guests will fill in their names on the response cards. You could also add a third line underneath the response options that has "number attending" listed out for your guests to fill in, or a line that has "we have reserved ___ number of seats reserved in your honor." for you and your sweetie to fill in by hand for each guest/couple/family.

Since the first option is the simplest, that is what I usually recommend! While some may argue that this is tacky or sometimes even offensive that your guests wouldn't know to include each name on the response card - trust me, it is pretty common to include this detail on response cards! You will feel much better knowing exactly how many guests will be coming from each household, rather than being surprised on your wedding day and not having enough seats and food for everyone! And if someone fills in more names on the card than you've allotted, you can simply decide if you're okay with that extra person attending, or sweetly call that person/couple/family and explain to them that you only have XYZ number of seats reserved for them.


So friends, which wording combination would you use? Zack and I personally used the casual invitation wording paired with "see you there!" and "celebrating from afar!" for our response card wording! 

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